It may sound impossible, but you can get away from all your worries and pains if you know how to manipulate your feeling and let go of the negativities. In this episode, Penny Zenker interviews Paul Levin who is a speaker, trainer, author, and life-transformation mentor who shows people how to manifest their own perfect life. There is too much pain, stress, and sadness in this world, and because of this, Paul has dedicated himself towards making people happier and pain-free in his own ways. He happily shares some tips on how you can lift yourself up and let go of the things that are bringing you down, showing how we can truly be pain-free and filled with true happiness in this stressful world.
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Paul Levin on Manifesting Your Perfect Life
I’m excited to be talking about mindset because it’s huge when it comes to taking back your time and the basis of what you start with. Paul Levin is here with us and I want to introduce him because he is a speaker, trainer, author and a life transformation mentor. He’s a certified hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner. I am also an NLP master practitioner. I know the value that Paul is going to be bringing here and some of the tips that he may be sharing around that. He’s the author of the book, Your Life Sucks No More. He’s also the Founder of I Deserve A Perfect Life. Paul is on a mission to take away the emotional pain of the world. There’s a lot of it out there. He accomplished this by showing you how to shift the way that you think. You’ve heard me talk about this a ton, so I think this is so important. He says that the shift results in major changes in your life experiences and he’s going to show the path to your own perfect life. Without further ado, Paul, welcome to the show.
Thank you, Penny. That was an amazing introduction.
I’m excited to have you here because it’s all about thinking. It is all about shifting our thinking. Tell me what and why did this motivate you to want to help eliminate the pain in the world.
Some 66% according to some surveys, two-thirds of Americans say by their own words that they’re not happy. I spent most of my life not happy. The title of my book is Your Life Sucks No More. 66% of this country, and I don’t know what the numbers are for the world, would agree with the first part, that your life sucks. My life sucked. I know you are and your audience are interested in time. When you’re sitting there trying to do your work and your mind is occupied on all the problems in your life, all the stressors, all the things that you might have to deal with tomorrow or you are revealing all the pain from yesterday, you’re not getting what you want to be doing done, are you?
No, it is such a distraction to have all of that going on. I talk about it like it’s a computer program that for all the additional windows that you had opened, it’s sucking all that energy. I totally agree with you and everybody needs to think about what percentage of their energy is being captured and withheld from them and how much more they could have available to them. How did this show up for you, Paul? How did your life suck? “I don’t believe you. You think your life sucked, but now you think your life is great and everybody can have a perfect life. It’s good for you.” I’m just representing there people out there that go, “Yeah, that’s great for you, but that doesn’t work for me.”
Just think to yourself, do you have your kindergarten class picture right now? Would you know where to find your kindergarten class picture, Penny?
I have mine. For those of you who have yours, dig it out. Find yourself in the picture and then ask yourself the question, “Am I looking at a happy child or not?” then take a look at the other faces in the picture and identify one by one, is this a happy child or not? It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out if a child is happy or they’re sad. Looking at my kindergarten class picture, it was clear and evident that this was not a happy child.
One of the fastest and easiest ways to change your perspective is with a thing called distraction. Click To Tweet What made you unhappy?
There were events that occurred at five that I only began to remember in the last couple of years.
We suppress things that happen in our life because they’re difficult to deal with, difficult to get through.
When anything painful happens to us, especially when we’re children, as the years go by, we’re going to suppress it. We’re going to press it down. That’s what society teaches us, especially boys when I was growing up, “Suck it up. Don’t cry. Be a man.” All that does is push these traumas down. They don’t go away. They’re just stored.
One of the things that I’m hearing is there’s a difference between pushing down and letting go. Do you have a tip for people? We don’t need to go into any specific trauma or anything. This is a happy, uplifting show. Do you have a specific tip that can help people instead of pushing down when it comes up? They recognize it years and decades later. How do you let go?
The way to let go is to go through it. This may sound counterintuitive. It’s definitely not what society teaches. If you have an emotional experience in your life, something that was not pleasurable, if you had a pleasurable one, great. Absorb that and hang on to that as long as you can. If you had a non-pleasurable experience in your life, whatever emotion that brings up for you, experience that emotion fully. If you need to go into the bathroom and go into a stall so that you can punch something like the toilet paper or if you need to go outside to your car so you could yell, do it. Experience the emotion fully because as you do that, you will pass right through it and what’s on the other side as happiness and joy.
Let me ask you a question because I can imagine people at business meetings, it could be ugly when someone is pissed off or annoyed or frustrated because they’re going to fully feel their emotions there in the meeting. How do you suggest that people do it ecologically so that they’re also not burning all the bridges of everyone in their life?
As I said in the beginning, excuse yourself and do what you have to do. You’re number one and you need to take care of yourself first. If you need to say, “I need to stop this meeting for one second. I’ll be back in about two minutes,” and you go find yourself an empty office and you punch something. You scream or you stomp your feet or whatever and have the emotion freed. I also teach people how to bring forth happiness, where happiness is located and how to find that at any instant so that after that training, when you’re in that situation, you can simply bring forth that happiness, take that pain and set it aside, which is a technique I teach as well, then you can go experience that pain later.
That sounds a little bit more ecological to me than being able to in every situation say, “I need to leave for a couple of minutes.” I don’t know that anybody who’s reading would be able to accept that for all situations. I like the idea that there are methods and techniques to be able to find a neutral ground in the moment and then come back and deal with that in a different way later.
It’s even better than the neutral ground because It comes back in every situation deciding what you want.
Do you have a tip around that that we can give? Because people are skeptical. They go, “Yeah, but.” There are so many “Yeah, buts” in there. Is there a specific quick tip that you could give them where they could put it into practice and then say, “That Paul guy, I’ve got to go contact him because he knows what’s going on and I could get a little deeper with this.”
It’s all about perspective. One of the fastest ways and easiest ways to change your perspective is with a thing called distraction. This works amazingly well with children. Consider a child who is upset because of any reason. As the parent, all you need to do is distract them. Show them a shiny object. As adults, you’re still attracted to shiny objects. I am. If it’s traffic, that’s one of my biggest problems before my transformation.
Are you a road rager?
Traffic and I were not friends. With traffic, rather than getting upset at the guy who’s doing 40 in the left lane and paralleling two other people so that you can’t pass, simply sit back in your seat, blast the music to some song you like or start thinking about something you enjoy. Maybe start planning your day or planning how that wonderful date is going to go or plan a dinner, whatever. Think about something that makes you happy while this person in front of you is going slow.
I want people to understand, it’s that easy to shift your mindset as to shift your perspective. You’re either focused on the guy in front of you or you are focused on enjoying the music. It’s a different focus. It’s both available to you at the exact same time and you get to choose where you shift your focus.
Where focus goes, energy flows.
It's our resistance that creates what's happening around us. Click To Tweet It’s a big Tony Robbins statement.
The other thing you can do while your relaxing and now enjoying whatever it is you’re enjoying, remember with no emotion that you’d like the person to go faster or move out of your way. That’s something you want while you’re having fun thinking about the thing that’s making you happy. If you can think of that extra thing like about the car in front of you while you’re staying in a happy state, watch what happens. All of a sudden that car will speed up or all of a sudden it will change lanes. It happens to me over and over. It’s must-have happened to me a thousand times now.
Isn’t it the case that it’s our resistance that creates what’s happening around us? I’d like you to be able to relate this to procrastination because a lot of people who are reading might have a challenge with procrastination. When we talk about take back time and compressing time, a big thing is how you deal with procrastination. Could you take this very same example, which I know is completely applicable to procrastination and give the users how they would use that around something that they’re procrastinating on?
Let’s say it’s a business phone call you need to make or maybe it’s not even business. Maybe you need to call your relative or the friend that you might have had a small argument with the other day and you’re putting it off. It’s a task you need to do and you’re putting it off. The first step would be let’s be honest and ask yourself, “Why am I putting this off?”
Because I hate it, because I’m afraid of what the result is if I do it or because I’ll be judged. That’s the biggest one. Fear is the biggest driver of anything and everything.
I’m afraid of what am I going to say. I’m afraid I’m going to be embarrassed. I’m afraid they’re still going to be angry at me, anything you’re fearful of.
The quality of my work isn’t going to be good and not up to standard. I’m afraid that I’m going to be judged. All that is fear. I’m afraid I’m going to have too much work to do. I spoke to somebody I was working with, she’s procrastinating on growing her business because she’s afraid of the extra work that it creates. I know it sounds counterproductive, but people are stuck in fear about different things. It’s real and I totally get it. Go ahead and help us to apply this tip on how we can shift our perspective and our focus away from the fear and towards what it is that we do want.
I have a twelve-week program where we eliminate fear. That fear will no longer be there after that program. In the moment, we’re taking all of that right back to perspective. Change your perspective. Change how you’re seeing it. Give me a specific example if you would, Penny. Give me one that you’d like me to address.
I’m procrastinating the projects that I need to do.
Let’s say because they’re going to say no. I need to make this business call and I know they’re going to say no. Why should I even bother making the call? The first question I have for you is, “Has anybody ever said yes on a call such as the one you’re about to make?” Of course they have. I don’t know the answer to this one for somebody else, but for you, Penny, when you’ve made these kinds of calls in the past, has anybody ever said yes to you? Of course they have. If your answer is no, if you’re just getting started, you’ve never made these calls before, then go with the first question, that people have said yes and you’re just getting started. Given that you now know that a yes is possible, my question to you is what do you want? Do you want a yes or do you want a no?
I want a yes.
Then you get on the phone and go get a yes. If you should happen to get a no, you hang up that phone and you forget that thing because that’s the past. It’s over and it’s done with. Feel the emotions, go through it, express what you need to. That’s the past and it’s done with. Pick up the phone now to go get a yes again and again.
It depends on the perspective you look at it, no just means not right now. It doesn’t mean no forever. It’s all a matter of what that no means to you. I agree with that. I’m a big proponent of no just means not right now.
There are a lot of things we can do with what we heard as a no.
You can be shifting your focus away from the thing that you don’t want because that’s where our mind takes us and we have to be more purposeful and put it towards what we do want. Paul, what I liked about what you said was we have to open up the possibility that we’re shutting down the possibility by focusing on the thing that we don’t want, but if we can remember that has anyone done it before? Yes. That opens up a possibility. Have we ever done it before? Yes. It opens up more possibility. Even if you go to remember that time when you did get a yes and how it felt and how you felt and how you showed up for that call, that in itself can help you to be in a different state to make the next call. I love how you said that it’s about shifting back and remembering and opening up that possibility. It’s a fantastic tip and I want you all to go back and read it again, whether it’s driving in the car and dealing with traffic, dealing with the challenges with a relationship, a conflict of any kind in your work efforts. It’s applicable in every area of your life. Paul, what would you say? How does that help people to take back time?
In order to take back your time, the key component of that is being present, being here and in the moment. I don’t want to say that it necessarily means you have to do the thing you don’t like to do because I can get into a whole other discussion about what do you want to be doing. Be present in the moment and you will be so much more empowered. The way to be present is to not be in the past and to not be in the future.
Open up the possibility that we have more control over things than we think. Click To Tweet Not be in the past and not be in the future. It sounds easier than what some people experience. Has anyone ever done it before? Yes. Have you done it before? Yes. We open up the possibility that we have more control over that than we think about being present.
In sports, they call it being in the zone. You can be in the zone all the time.
It’s where you focus. That makes all the difference. For curiosity, what’s your definition of productivity and why?
I’ve become very spirit-led in the last few months where pretty much everything I do at every moment of every day is in alignment with what my spirit wants me to be doing. Productivity is doing what your spirit wants you to be doing at every moment of every day. I used to be frustrated at my to-do list. It had so many things on it. I looked at it and there’s no possible way any living human being could do all of that in one day. When I let go of my to-do list, I use it as a tool to remind me of what the things I want to do. At every moment I say, “What do I want to do now?” Miraculously, at the end of whatever period of time it is, all those things are done. I don’t know how, I didn’t worry about it, I just didn’t want to do it at the moment and it all got done.
I think that’s an important tip too, is to detach emotionally from your to-do list. That’s a key thing. That’s something I started to do not too long ago. At the end of the day, instead of being so attached to the to-do list and focused on what I didn’t do, I started to focus on what I did do and be more detached and plan for the next day and be a little bit more detached. I do believe that that’s an important tip for people who are reading to better take back time. All of it is how you deal emotionally with the things that you have to do, you want to do and that you’re instructed to do and being able to create that balance between urgency and importance without creating additional stress that’s unnecessary.
You touched on something there and that was to celebrate, to focus on the things you did do. That’s another key thing towards happiness. Happiness will lead to productivity and taking back your time. I was using an app, Tick Tick, which is available for keeping to-do lists. I personally like it. When it first came out, when I first started using it, you would check off the box that you completed a task and it would disappear. I overheard someone else using an app that every time they checked off a task, it played a song or it played a bell. I asked Tick Tick to put that feature in and they did.
That’s smart because we want to have that celebration. That’s what creates momentum is that little bit of celebration. We’re so quick to go past it without giving ourselves that pat on the back.
Take that moment. Even though it takes time, it will add to your time later. Get that moment and celebrate.
Thank you. We’ve had so many great tips from the beginning, talking about how to shift your focus and distract yourself to talking about also letting go and detaching and then also in this last bit about celebrating. Paul, I want to thank you for being here. Can you give us your details about where people can reach you?
The website is IDeserveAPerfectLife.com. Yes, you do. You should say that to yourself.
I deserve a perfect life right now.
If you’re interested in the book, the book is Your Life Sucks No More. If you go to the website, it’s right there on the homepage. Click on it and it’ll take you off to Amazon.
Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate it.
Thank you. I’ve enjoyed it.
Thank you all for being here and taking in and appreciating the value that you’re receiving in each and every one of these shows. I know that you’re taking away those tidbits and you’re taking one thing that you can put into practice. What is that one thing? Go ahead and write that down and put it into practice immediately so that you can start to create momentum from it. Thank you for being here. I’ll see you motivate the next episode.
About Paul Levin
Paul Levin is a speaker, a trainer, an author, and a life-transformation mentor. He is a certified hypnotherapist and an NLP practitioner. He is the author of the book “Your Life Sucks No More”.
As the founder of “I Deserve A Perfect Life”, Paul Levin is on a mission to take away the emotional pain of the world. He accomplishes this by showing you how to shift the way you think. This shift results in major changes in your life experiences. Today he will show the path, to your own perfect life.
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